Building our Homes Part III

Going back to Monday and how I shared (as I remind myself) that we need to see our "job" of wife and mother not just as a responsibility but as a precious gift from God...I read a GREAT blog post on Raw Christianity about gifts and how our attitude should be as the receiver of gifts. Being a wife and mother is not just the gift...all that makes up our role as wife and mom is the gift too! That includes making meals, being interrupted (which I have been countless times since starting this post!), cleaning up rooms, teaching the same thing over and over, fielding endless amounts of questions...do I need to go on?:)

I think it's so easy to forget that each one of those things are also gifts from God...given to us at exactly the right moment to accomplish exactly the purpose it was created for...our sanctification! But, if we don't have our eyes fixed on what is "unseen" and eternal, we will find ourselves quick to forget and quick to grumble and complain at the very gifts that are "good and perfect" (James 1:17) and we'll spend our time with eyes fixed in the wrong places looking for some other kind of gift!

Okay...time to stop typing...because what I really want you to read is not my words but David Gundersen's words! Let's rejoice today in the gifts of God...and, ultimately, in the Giver, God Himself!


Gift Exchanges
April 27, 2010

These last few weeks before graduation are always filled with public thank-you’s, gifts of gratitude, and tokens of appreciation. The academic excellence of students and the sacrificial faithfulness of leaders calls out many well-deserved expressions of honor.

On the Deans’ Staff this year, we’ve had the privilege of serving alongside a very rare student leader — a three-year Resident Assistant named Jesher Loi. To honor and thank him at our final staff meeting, I brought him up and presented him with an ESV Study Bible. As I spoke about Jesher, every head in the room nodded in a unison that demonstrated the consistency and power of his campus-wide influence during his time at the college.

After the meeting, Jesher met me at the front of the room and thanked me. Since I had chosen the color and cover style of his gift, I had planned all along to tell him that he could exchange it at the campus bookstore for a differently-styled ESV Study Bible of his own choosing. Earlier in the day I had even confirmed with the bookstore clerk that Jesher could come in on his own and make the exchange without having a receipt.

Jesher’s gracious response to my offer was surprising: “No, I wouldn’t want to exchange a gift; it’s special because it’s what you’ve chosen for me.”

I don’t know if it’s his Singapore roots where leaders and teachers are highly honored, or his social graces which give him relational wisdom beyond his years, or his spiritual maturity that exhibits a rare perspective. No matter the source, I was struck by his response because it’s as instructive as it is uncommon.

We function in a society of gift receipts and post-Christmas exchanges, an atmosphere in which it’s entirely normal and often expected for the gift-giver to provide as many post-gift options as possible: exchanges, store credit, or even complete refunds. We expect many of the gifts we give to be altered or even completely bartered away for something more preferred. To put it crudely, we expect many of our gifts to be unaccepted.

But far more importantly, we even reserve the freedom to alter the gifts we receive.

Certainly it’s sensible and practical to grant each other the social freedom to exchange an oversized shirt or trade in an already-owned board game after the Christmas festivities have wound down. With all the travesties in our world, this custom surely isn’t too high on the totem pole.

Yet this type of mentality has a liquid quality — it tends to seep into the rest of our thinking, seeking the lowest level, at times even infiltrating the very foundations of our worldview. Who can deny our tendency to be customizers of grace, those who would rather pick and choose what we’re given instead of trusting the Good Giver of all? How many of God’s gifts do we accept hesitantly, putting on a smile and mouthing the obligatory thank-you while examining the box for a gift receipt? A tray of well-prepared food in the school cafeteria, a ministry opportunity in the form of an interruption, a morning of needed rain on our one day off?

How many of God gifts do we miss entirely because we’re looking for something else, something more in line with our preferences, or even our mood? A stunning sunset on the horizon when we’re looking for a traffic-less commute home; a strong exhortation from a knowing friend when we were hoping for some soft pushover sympathy; a short night’s rest when we’re really wanting to wake up fully rested and fully independent.

How happy we might be if we were to accept each of God’s gracious gifts in simple faith, trusting the Giver, even telling Him, “No, I wouldn’t want to exchange Your gift. It’s special because it’s what You’ve chosen for me. It’s good because it’s what You’ve chosen for me. It’s good because You’re good.”

“Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change” (James 1:17). Father of Lights, teach us to happily receive each of Your gifts according to Your wise providence instead of customizing our own according to our worldly preferences.